It has often left me speechless how, even after I’ve written openly about the years of harassment and exploitation that my daughter and I have endured, there are still people who choose to join in the abuse, harassment, bullying, stalking, etc. I have described in painful detail what it feels like to be watched, mocked, sexually humiliated, and manipulated — and yet, instead of empathy, some respond with more cruelty by continuing to harass me more. But remember, hate has no place in this world.
When people read about someone’s suffering, there are usually two paths they can take: compassion or complicity. Compassion means recognising the humanity of another person and standing against injustice. Complicity means either silently approving or actively taking part in harm. What I see happening around me suggests that many have chosen the latter.
It’s difficult to understand what drives this. Perhaps some have been deliberately misled — fed misinformation by those who wish to cover up their wrongdoing. Perhaps they’ve been told lies about who I am, what I’ve done, or why this is happening, so they feel justified in their cruelty. Or perhaps, for others, the power to join in the humiliation of another person is itself an intoxicating form of control or pure entertainment seeing another human being suffering.
But regardless of motive, the result is the same: the perpetuation of abuse. Every act of mockery, every knowing smirk, every participation in the coordinated harassment keeps the cycle of violence alive. It is not merely “following instructions” or “going along with it.” It is a moral choice — and each person who participates in becomes part of the harm.
What makes this especially alarming is that many of these individuals cannot claim ignorance. They have read my words. They know the toll this has taken on me and my daughter — emotionally, psychologically, and even physically. They know about the sleepless nights, the fear, the humiliation, the destruction of privacy, and the blocking of my access to lawyers. And yet, even with that knowledge, they continue.
When someone can look at suffering, fully informed, and still decide to contribute to it, that reveals something dark about human nature. It exposes how easily prejudice, misinformation, or simple indifference can override empathy. It shows how a society can be conditioned to dehumanise a person — to treat someone’s pain as entertainment or as a tool for manipulation. If this is the case, what’s wrong with the world today?
There’s also another layer to this: bias. Some people are quick to dismiss my experiences because of who I am — a woman of colour, an outsider, a person without institutional power. They assume that if powerful organisations or individuals are involved, then the victim must be exaggerating. This reflexive bias allows abusers to continue unchallenged, hiding behind their reputations and resources.
To those who have read my blog and still choose to side with cruelty, ask yourself this: If something like this happens to you or your loved ones, what would you do? Do you have a daughter, and what would you feel if they’re doing this to your daughter as well?
If you have involved yourself in this harassment in any way — through mockery, gossip, or passive observation — you still have a choice. You can refuse to participate further. You can choose empathy over exploitation and abuse.
I am shocked that no one says, “I don’t want to be a part of this. This is just so wrong.”
And to those who still have the courage to see beyond the lies and manipulation — who recognise the human cost of what is being done — your understanding matters more than you know.
I continue to write because silence would mean acceptance. And I will not accept being silenced, erased, or dehumanised by those who profit from cruelty or those who enable it.
Because hate has no place in this world.
Therefore, I am taking important steps to hold those responsible accountable. The harassment, exploitation, deception and unlawful use of private information will not go unchallenged. I will be pursuing formal legal action against the perpetrators and all entities involved, to ensure that justice is served and that the full scope of wrongdoing is exposed.
